Failures

When I think about 2011, I think about failures. It doesn't mean that failure was all that is to it, but I suppose that's something I'm struggling with right now.

I spent the first 6 months of the year lamenting over a broken relationship or multiple broken relationships, be it romantic relationships or friendship or family relationships. I thought that I had recovered, but little did I know that I was only masking everything with the small academic or career successes that had stumbled my way. Recently, I realized that I was as much a failure in my academics as in my relationships. I guess it had just gotten to a point where I cared less and less about grades or even trying to match the standards of fellow classmates or professors. The reality was that I suck. I might be good as an individual, but in comparison to people, I suck, in every aspect.

Now, here's a dilemma.
Some say, there's no need to compare with others, but only to one's own past. That's how one grows.
Some say, the reality is harsh. There will be judgement. There will be hardships. There will be consequences. Just suck it up, and hopefully something good will turn up in the future.

Really? Will there be growth? Will there be hope?
Why is it that who we are is never good enough?

"I'm glad you've found what works for you"

This is a repost from a close friend of mine back at home, and upon reading it, it dawned on me that I struggle with the same thing, and perhaps many do. Why? Why is it that as a believer of Christ Jesus, I get uncomfortable when my non-believing friends say "I'm glad you've found what works for you"? Shouldn't we be glad that we did find what works for us? Perhaps we do, but at the same time, there's something deeper, much much deeper than "what works for me". Christianity is not a religion, it is not a comfort, it is life.

From Ophelia Hu (oxhu.wordpress.com):

I renounced my atheism almost three years ago. (Happy almost-birthday to me!) When I tell this to my old friends and acquaintances, I frequently hear, “I’m glad you’ve found what works for you.” While these may be well-intentioned words, I can’t stand them.

I did not wander around in a vacuous space of spiritual limbo until I found a new hobby – something that could keep me occupied and give my days structure. No. My refusal to have faith was a faith system. Under scrutiny, that faith system crumbled, and my recognition of God’s existence was a response to that.

Faith is not a disposable t-shirt that comforts me. (There is nothing comforting about ridicule or persecution.) Nor is it a quintessential pair of jeans or little black dress – expected of me, and appropriate in social settings. (I am expected in my demographic to have no faith; and if I do, it is only socially appropriate to use it sparingly.) Rather, it is a one-size-fits-all life vest. It may not have fit around my stubborn, folded arms or around my shaking head at first, but I couldn’t just ignore it: it is critical to my survival.

God is not what “fits” me. That’s precisely what I had been seeking before I became a Christian. I sought something easy, moralistic, stylish, status-imbuing, that required no faith: a wide range of straight-up atheism to new-age hooha, paganism, universalism, and quasi-Buddhism that added up to nothing. A never-changing, never-ending God was the last thing I wanted. To be a follower of Jesus is difficult. It diminishes one’s attention on oneself and invites ridicule. It requires reliance, patience, and the strange desire to recognize and change one’s imperfect self. To be a follower of Jesus is not moralistic, since the first step to cementing my discipleship is to acknowledge my innate brokenness and the supremacy of only God to make me whole, which is a process that cannot be completed in my lifetime. To be a follower of Jesus is absolutely not stylish or status-imbuing, since the world laughs at Christians, and a vast majority of true followers of Christ are poor, persecuted, and without status in the world’s eyes. The fact that I chose and now daily choose to love and follow Jesus requires much more explanation than “I’m glad you’ve found what works for you” affords.

For a long time, I tried to understand why this response frustrates me so much. It frustrated me the very day it all clicked and I began to follow Christ, and I told my family and close friends. It frustrates me just as much today, three years later. It must be because it downplays the inherent struggle in intimating myself with God, who isn’t what I had expected or sometimes, what I can comprehend. It ignores my Jacobic wrestle with the angels. It disregards that this seemingly illogical transformation of the soul and encounter with the real, living God is possible. It is a non-confrontational, sometimes cowardly answer that dismisses the reality of my change, and its magnificent source. It blows off the empirical evidence of my transformed nature as delusion, and most importantly, it attempts to ignore that this can happen to you – to anyone.

I have already decided to follow Jesus, but every day I have a new story to tell of His loving, incredible nature. When I tell you these stories, or when the people in your life decide to choose Him, I challenge you not to feign a smile and say, “Good for you.” Dredge up those questions and doubts. Be honest. I’d love to talk to you.

Dance

I have a degenerative disc in my lower spine, not entirely serious at the moment, but it's causing me pain, chronic pain. The doctor told me to stop all physical activities except swimming and ab workouts. This translated into, no running, no badminton, no yoga, no dancing. I can take the first three, but no dancing...

Dancing has always been a passion of mine. When I dance, I forget about the world, I feel the music, I feel God. No dancing. It made me cry. Yet, this was the image I saw before going to bed last night.

He said: From that first night that you were mine, I've been holding you, I've been turning you, and I've been dancing with you, and I will always be dancing with you, my daughter and my bride. 

The Amazing Grace

11/20: Mom baptized

11/24: Brother turned 7

11/28: Dad: I'll make you your wedding dress

7 years ago, I came to know Him, the amazing Father in Heaven. 7 years have passed, I cannot help but stop and gaze at the wonderful Savior who has never stopped moving and loving.

Show & Tell

"Be bold, my child"
How...
"Stop thinking, just do it"
How...
"Stop doubting, be encouraged"
How...
"Stop hesitating, trust me"
How...
"Have faith and you shall be set free"

Road Scene [A short class assignment]

EXT. ROAD. NIGHT
A small sedan rushes through a narrow road in the woods. The street is damp and slippery from the morning snow.

INT. CAR. CONTINUOUS

LAURA (30)
Nononono, please do NOT touch that!

The drunken old man fumbles through the CD cabinet.

CARLOS (65)
Ah, give me a break. I’m old, but I know what music I like! This ain’t it. Turn off that damn Christmas
radio!

LAURA (30)
What are you...Oh God.

The old man chokes on his own words, coughing and regurgitating.

LAURA
Oh God! Are you ok? Jeez...nonono, not on that seat!

Laura eyes over at Carlos, left hand grips onto the steering wheel, right hand pats the old man’s back.

LAURA (cont’d)
God, what did I sign up for...Why did you drink so much?

The old man continuous to cough. Laura, annoyed, takes a quick look onto the road and sees a dark spot in front of her. She pulls her right hand away from Carlos and leans her body closer to the steering wheel.

LAURA (cont’d)
What is...

A pair of glowing eyes pierces back at Laura as she looks closer. She screams loudly, causing the old man to look up as well.

EXT. ROAD. SAME
We hear a loud collision from a distance and a woman’s never ending screech.

EXT. ROAD.
A young deer lies in its own blood. A car 50 feet way rests in a pool of dirty red slush.

LAURA (O.S)
Shit!!

First stab at screenwriting...:)

Int. Dining Room. Evening.

A man (40s) and a girl (16) sit across from each other by the dining room table. There are two half-filled rice bowls in front of them.

                                    Man:              
                      Eat up, Joan. We don't have much, but you'll need the
                      strength to work tomorrow.

Joan avoids the man's eyes, bows her head low, slowly picks up the rice bowl in front of her.
She waits, but does not eat.
She suddenly slams the bowl back down. The man looks startled.
Joan lifts her head, stands up, pushing her hands down on the table.

                                   Joan:
                      Where. is. my. father!

Man Silent. Joan pushes aside her chair and dashes for the door.

End.